14 February 2009

Anger - Intermittent Explosive Disorder & Domestic Violence

Intermittent Explosive Disorder -
If a person's aggressive outbursts result in any destruction of property, physical assaults on people or animals, or causing a death, then that person has a problem and should seek help immediately. This anger problem will result in legal and financial problems and destroyed relationships. Peace and true happiness are elusive. Friends, family, loved ones and even strangers are in danger.

Loss of control is the key factor. The individual loses control, resulting in aggressive acting out, either by yelling, assaulting others, or destroying property. The degree of behavior is always out of proportion to the stimulus. Typically, these individuals will not take responsibility for their loss of control, often blaming the victim, other circumstances in their life, or some third party as causing their loss of control. The inability to accept responsibility for the one's own actions helps to alleviate guilt. It also prevents the individual from seeing that there is a problem and making any changes. Both men and women can have this terrible problem.

Comedian Roger Heater suffers from IED. He now gives talks and is writing a book. He guest wrote his story for me. Please check out: Roger Heater's Story of IED.







Domestic Violence -
People with Intermittent Explosive Disorder often only lose control within the context of a close interpersonal relationship. Their self-control is better outside their own home and family. The diagnosis of Intermittent Explosive Disorder is almost always present in domestic violence situations, except when the violence occurs only in situations with substance abuse or intoxication. Sometimes, however, intoxication is also a form of not accepting blame and the individual may choose to become intoxicated prior to a confrontation and use their wasted state as an excuse for loss of control.

Individuals who only lose control within relationships often attach strong emotional ultimatums to those relationships. If a person believes that loss of a relationship would be unbearable, then they will stay in the abusive relationship, regardless of what logic says.

Perpetrators of domestic violence rarely receive adequate psychological treatment, because they are viewed as criminals, rather than individuals with psychological problems.


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7 comments:

  1. Domestic violence is violence which occurs in an intimate relationship. The keywords are intimate relationship.
    Anger is a normal human relationship which is a problem which it is too intense, occurs too frequently, last too long, leads to violence, impacts health or destroys intimate relationships.
    Intermittent explosive disorder does not cover domestic violence.

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  2. Thank you for your input. So are you saying someone could have one or the other type of anger but not both? I think there is an overlap.

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  3. I am engared to a wonderful man. He was diagnosed with IED in 1995. I met him in 2003 and had no idea what this was until I heard his story.

    As a child Roger suffered from temper tantrums and rage attcks so severe he was made a ward of the court. From age 12-16 he lived in shelters, mental institutions, group homes and psychaitric hospitals throught the state of California, during which time he experienced several different forms of discipline and medications. Being stripped of his belt, shoes and pockets empited, he was placed in a 7' by 4' room with no outside windows and no door knob on the inside. He was restrained on beds by being wrapped in sheets from his ankles to his neck. As early as 9 years old he was subjected to several different anti-depressants including Ritalin, Valium and Lithium.

    By age 34 with two addictive drug habits and two failed marriages behind him, the comedy stage alone was no onger enough to keep his anger under control. His agressive and abusive behavior laned him into a psychiatric hospital twice, within a 6 month period.

    Present day- After stuggling for over three decades, he was finally given a diagnosis - I.E.D. This disorder was still unknown to the public and researcher at the time, so proper medications and therapy were still in the testing stage. Over the years while learning what he could about the disease he taught himself how to overcome and survive living with it. After more than 14 years of touring and performing comedy all over the United States, he developed a strong ability to keep any size groups attention and his strong stage presence continues to shine even when delivering material on a much darker subject.

    Roger is a warm, loving and selfless person. He is always positive, motivating and caring for not only his family but to everyone who meets him. Although he still suffers from IED, he has never put myself or his children in harms way

    We need your help in getting his personal story of overcome to everyone who will hear him. This not only affects children, but husbands, wives, siblings and everyone who knows or is living with someone with this illness. His story will bring hope and most of answers. Please comment back and allow us to speak in your school, church or wherever we can get the word out.

    It all begins with one voice-YOURS.

    Thank you for listening

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  4. RH - Thanks for visiting and posting your comments. It's unreal what is done to people before psychiatry figures things out correctly. Would you be interested in authoring an article on this site? "Roger Heater - My IED Story" or something like that? Let me know. Would love a story, bio and some pix. Will give links to Roger's website or whatever sites would be appropriate.

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  5. Liz,

    We would love to help out in any way! Our message is real, and Roger's story needs to be heard. Please visit our website- www.heaterproductions.com to learn more or to contact us directly. Roger is in the process of writing his life story,to let everyone know that there is hope and you can live with and manage this disorder.

    We are not professionals, but real people with real stories that real people can relate with.

    We look forward to hearing from you soon!

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  6. Tammy - sent you an email...

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  7. wish4anewheart@yahoo.comJun 19, 2010 06:07 AM

    you are talking here about "grown ups" with this disease, does anyone know of good web sites for children age 10 with this disease? Iam a mother of a little boy who is turning ten this week and his dad and i know this is him ... we know he has ALL the symptoms of IED but we can not get anyone to listen to us, we are lost.... our son is on 8 different meds a day and they are not helping to control this anger he has, are there other meds out here that help with this disorder? he has been on meds since age 4 and has been in counseling since that age too .... help us we are lost ... thank you ... our email is as follows if you have any suggestions: wish4anewheart@yahoo.com

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